Kindergarden Fundraising

I know that schools need funds to keep them going...

I know the State DOES NOT provide enough money per child...

I know that teachers DO NOT make nearly enough money for all they do...

I also know that it takes ALOT of money for our children to attend school and have all the fun experiences that go along with learning.

However I DO NOT agree that the school or PTA/PTO should put a price on what if anything parents must give.

Case in point...

My daughter is 5 had been in kindergarten for 4 (F-O-U-R) days when she brought home her first (of many I'm sure) fundraiser.  We choose to make a donation to the school rather than ask our families and friends to buy this overpriced, never needed merchandise.  This has been our practice.  Child brings home fundraiser, we write check to school and forget all about it. 

Now with this particular fundraising opportunity a note from some parent no one knows or cares to interact with accompanied it.  This note stated that if the child did not sell at least 15 items or bring in a "donation" of $40 they would not get to participate in a party that will be taking place in the fall. 

Herein lies my issue(s)  1.  How dare you tell me how much I need to donate.  2.  What happens if the parents really can't afford to pay $40 per child.  3.  How dare you exclude any child whether or not their parents choose to participate in this extortion fundraiser.  4.  Way to single out the kids whose parents choose to sit this one out regardless of the reason. 

This situation has me fuming because I CAN NOT STAND when someone singles out a child and makes them feel different, less than, inadequate, or whatever word you want to use.  Children should be included in any and all activities that come along with the school day and to say they won't be allowed if their parents don't pay is WRONG.

Well there is my rant...

Sidenote -  just because we have decided that our family will not participate in fundraisers doesn't mean I will bash any family that decides they want their child to have this experience.

P.S. please don't take this personally if you are a parent who enjoys buying overpriced crap you don't need fundraising or making sizable donations to organizations not of your choosing.

I'm Not Alone...

Have you ever just "woke up" and come to the realization that you are not alone in the way you feel, the way you think, they way you act...well everything really????

I had an eye opener today.  I really have no idea why all of a sudden these thoughts dawned on me...but nonetheless they did.  There are some things that I try to do religiously and stalking checking in with at least some of my fav bloggers is one thing that always, I mean always cheers me up or at least relaxes me a bit. 

Anyhow...

Today I was going through reading what some of my fav ladies (who by the way have no idea who the hell I am, nor do they care ;)) are up to and it hits me like a ton of bricks.  Most of these women (most of them have lives that I dream of) have problems too.  They have bad days, they have issues with their kids, husband, families.  For some unknown reason I have put all of these "cyberfriends" (and I use the term friends loosely) up on a 10 foot pedestal and told myself that they have these perfect lives that are completely unattainable for someone like me. 

And now I realize that this train of though I have been allowing and probably even encouraging is so unhealthy and ridiculous.  Why is it that if anyone else has a problem or does something "wrong" I find it enduring and forgivable.  Yet if it is me or my life I am hard on myself and downright miserable until I can find some other flaw to focus on. 

Everybody has the good, bad and ugly that comes with life.  Everyone ultimately wants the same things health and happiness for themselves and their family.  And at the end of the day that is really the only thing that matters.  Right????

(well health, happiness, and a great purse collection)

TO BLOG OR NOT????

I quit blogging for multiple reasons...but mainly because I'm lazy...

I really feel like this was healthy outlet and I have no idea why I let myself quit!  The only reason I can come up with is I am a quitter!!!

I tend to quit more things than I finish and I really hate that about myself.  I would love to be one of the people who follows through with whatever they start no matter what it is or how much they hate it.

I have no idea when or why I started quitting things I just know this has become a pattern or habit and I cannot seem to break it.  There are certain things that I don't actually quit but will continually want to quit and complain about while still doing them. (does that even make sense???)

Well in the last 9 month or however long it has been there have been BIG changes going on.

I WILL start blogging again and telling anyone who cares (probably just me) all about them.  But I think this is enough for my first step towards blogging again.

Procrastination

I am ready to admit it....

I AM A PROCRASTINATOR

there I said it, and now I feel like such a weight has been lifted.

I put everything off until the last minute.

I put schoolwork off...
I put housework off...
I put life off...
I put EVERYTHING off.

and then I get pissed because I feel like I have no time, and no help, and everyone ends up pissing me off.

Why do I do this you ask?

I.HAVE.NO.FREAKING.IDEA.

I can't stand the fact that I do this.

and

I especially can't stand other people who do this (yes I judge them, and don't you judge me)

So here I am asking for help

HELP!!!!

How do I become the organized, responsible, well put together mom, woman, person I crave to be?  I really want to be that person!!!  I want to have more time, and still have accomplished the things that need to be done (and I don't mean in a unrealistic way).  I don't want to be the person who puts everything off until the last minute.  I don't. I don't. I don't.

Am I alone in this, or does any have any suggestions for me.

(by the way don't judge the spelling in this post...my laptop is screwing with me)

Friendships

I am curious to know what you all think...

How do you know when an acquaintance has become a friend????

and

How do you know when friendships have just faded and are better left by the wayside????

Recently I have had a couple of these experiences where I am not really sure if this person wants to be considered a friend or maybe they are just being polite, or I am just in the right place at the right time, and they feel like talking.

I also have a couple of friends who I thought I was fairly close with who now seem to not have the time of day for me...ok maybe I am not that broken up about this friendship because it was pretty one sided anyways, but none the less it was a friendship.

I am not the type of girls who has a ton of friends especially girlfriends.  I am not very outgoing, and I would most of the time rather not be surrounded by "snarky" women, and most women seem to be "snarky".  Of course if I feel really comfortable I can become a little snarky, but I do want more to talk about than just the usual gossip.  So this typically doesn't make me many female friends.  Oh yeah, and I do not put myself out there!!!!

No I am just rambling and completely away from my original questions.

So please leave me a message and give me your take on friendship.