Monday, July 25, 2011

To Marry or Not to Marry????

In my house there have been conversations for many, many, many years about marriage.  To marry or not to marry that is the question!!!

A little back story...

My "better half" and I have been together for almost 7 years.  We have the house(s) (we currently own 2 homes with 2 mortgages...damn economy but that's another blog), we have the daughters, we have the car payments, we have all the monthly bills...(I could go on but I won't...)

So there has been some debate, I mean discussions regarding marriage.  I think that we should at least be engaged (yes I want the damn ring, not so much the wedding but I really want the ring, come to think of it maybe I should just go buy a ring, because I have no need for the actual proposal or wedding)...Does it make me a little or alot strange that I have no desire for any of the over the top girlyness that weddings bring????

He thinks that things are good the way they are and not that he doesn't love me and want to spend the rest of his life with me but money would be more wisely spent on other things...such as college for the kids, retirement funds, saving for the future basically.  Did I mention that he is obsessive about money.  When it comes to money, he plans, and plan, and plans.  He tends to be a workaholic and tries as hard as he can without killing himself to give us a great life.  Which he does very well.

I love him and I know he loves me so is it really a big deal if I have a ring or not?  Does that piece of paper actually have any significance in our otherwise happy existence?  Are there still really people who can't believe that people like us wouldn't "just do it already"?  Well the answer to the last one is yes, and I have met some of them (they are not pleasant people).

So whats your take on this situation????

What do you think about marriage???? 

No I really do want your honest opinions.



3 comments:

amygrew said...

I say do what works for you. Get the ring though if you want it! You should have something pretty to wear!

LMKurkowski said...

Marriage isn't about a ring, a dress or a big party. It's a commitment of your soul to the one who already holds it in their heart. The desire for a ring represents something you feel is missing in your life. Find that answer within yourself and then you can be free to make the decision to marry or not. You have a good heart and are a wonderful person.

Bouncin' Barb said...

I was happily married for 23 years before my hubby died. Now I'm with Bruce going on 5 years and while I loved being married he has no desire or interest in it. I think the older you get (50 and up) it's not as significant but it sounds weird saying "my boyfriend" when I'm a grandmother.

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