Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Hardest Decision - Part 1


When I was sixteen I was faced with the biggest life changing decision I have ever had to make!!!

Let me give you a little insight into my sixteenth summer...

In July I turn the BIG 1-6, which meant I got my license, then in August I found out my parents were divorcing after 21 years of marriage, then in September I found out I was pregnant (more on this in a minute).  Whew that was quite a summer...right????

To put it mildly I had some major life changing things going on, and some very real, very hard decisions that had to be made.  The first major issues I had to deal with was the divorce, and this was only because my parents decided to fight for custody of a pregnant 16 year old.  Why either of them wanted me is still beyond my comprehension.  But they did, and I was made to sit with a Judge in her chambers and basically pick which parent I "liked" more and therefore wanted to live with.  Not a healthy situation for any child to go through.  Well I decided I would be the stubborn little brat that I was known for being and I told that Judge just what I thought of the situation and that I REFUSED to choose between my parents and she could just do whatever she wanted.  In the end my Mom got custody, but I was 16 not exactly a little kid and chose to see my Dad everyday.  I still to this day have the most amazing relationship with both of my parents,  and am continually grateful for them both of them.

Okay back to the pregnant 16 year old girl.  After much (ALOT) of consideration, crying, debating, crying, ignoring, crying, talking, and crying some more I decided that I was keeping this baby.  Boy oh Boy I had no idea what any of this meant, but I was keeping MY baby.  Little did I know at this point in my life this was going to be the biggest, most life changing, best decision I have ever made.  Of course at this point I have the "happily ever after" scenario in my head.  Being young and a kid myself, I thought I could take on and conquer anything...

More coming later...if anyone wants to hear more.



12 comments:

amygrew said...

I was just wondering about this the other day. Can't wait to hear/read more :)

Annie @astonesthrow said...

Wow! Tough decisions for a 16 year old is an understatement.:) I will have to tune in for part II. . .

Shell said...

Definitely want to hear more!

Rochelle@AFamilyofLooneys said...

I want to hear more.

We 2 Bees said...

WOW, what a year you had... can't believe you ended it there for us! More!
Stopping by from Shell's.

Adrienne said...

Me too! I'm ready for part 2!

Angie said...

Wow - what a difficult (to say the least) summer. Will be looking for more to come.

Heather said...

Very interesting. Lovely girls!!
That is a real life One Crazy Summer.

Adrienne said...

I read this on Wednesday and couldn't post a comment. (ARGH, BLOGGER!) I totally want to hear more!! Brave girl!

Anastasia said...

I had so much trouble having a baby at 23, I can't imagine you having to deal with it at 16. You're amazing!

I think you made the right decision to refuse. Let them figure it out.

dkdart16 said...

That was a tough summer! You should be sooo proud, you have an amazing 16 year old daughter and you are an awesome mom!!! and yes, your parents are great and i am very proud of you for not letting them make you make that decision, how horrible that must of been.

What Now???? said...

Deanna you are sooo sweet. I am thankful everyday that you are in my life. I couldn't ask for a better BFF.

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